Wednesday, June 22, 2011

throwing out the old


"Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth."
— Rumi

Have you ever wondered why it is that the people we love the most hurt us the most? Or, why we in return hurt those we love the most?

I get annoyed when others try to simplify people and relationships. People and relationships are very complex - always have been, always will be. If it were possible to scratch the surface of a person or relationship, we would never uncover all the different colors that have made us/them into the person we/they are today. Tomorrow, the next day, and until the day we die, we will evolve into someone different. Next year, if we could step outside our own skin and see the person we are today and the person we will be next year, we would see someone all together different. We will think and act differently. My hope is that it will be a progression and not a regression.

I know I will be carrying a new set of baggage and hopefully, I will have left some of the old behind and the new will be a lighter load and a more attractive set.

My goal is to let go and throw out the memories and experiences that have wounded me so deeply (which I am not so good at for some reason). Perhaps I am afraid to let go of the bad and hurtful experiences; maybe I allow them to define me? No longer do I want to define myself or be defined by the memories that haunt me, or, the people who want to define me. I am guilty of trying to see myself through the eyes of family members. NO MORE!!!!


"This is love: to fly toward a secret sky, to cause a hundred veils to fall each moment. First to let go of life. Finally, to take a step without feet."
— Rumi

"Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death."
— Rumi


9 comments:

LadyCat said...

I love the Rumi quotes...very wise. I understand what you are saying. It is so hard to let go of hurt and bad things from the past. I think the cliche "time heals all wounds" is somewhat true. I am getting better at letting things from long ago fall away. But my problem is the recent transgressions. I want to let go of them, but they seem to have the control for now. I'm working on it though : )
I love your cloud photos. We must be thinking alike. I just took some photos of the sky very similar to yours a few days ago.
BTW...did your mother cat and kittens return?

Margie said...

Never easy to let go of some of the old hurts but when we can do so, it's so good for our soul!
Much luck to you your goal!

Gorgeous picture!

Margie :)

Sixpence and A Blue Moon said...

Hi LadyCat! I am determined to let go of a lot of things. It's so unhealthy - rust to the body and soul. I understand what you are saying about some things being in control, I have a lot of those demons, but...I am tired of dealing with them. Life should not be so weighted down by words and hurts. A lot of my problem is trying to analyze them, trying to figure out why I allow things to hurt me, when they shouldn't. We'll do better!!!:)

No, they are around, a couple of houses down. Saw one of the kittens by itself this morning, playing.:) I think it is a wonderful lesson, just because you love someone it doesn't mean they accept it. And because someone loves you, it doesn't mean you accept it. Or, perhaps, they and we accept it the way we best know how.:)

I hope you are having a lovely week! xOx

Margie, thanks so much for your visit. Thanks so much for the luck wishes, I need all I can get. This is not a thing I do well at, but I am going to do it.

Thanks so much for the compliment on the photos.

xOx

adrielleroyale said...

It's funny how seasons seem to blend together sometimes... I am in the process of redefinition as well. I tore off all labels until there was nothing left to define me until I realized that I did need some definition, you know, I need to be SOMEone :) But knowing you have a choice in the matter makes all the difference. I wish you the very best!!

Sixpence and A Blue Moon said...

Adrielle, I think everyone goes through this phase, for me it has been more than once. My feeling is necessary that we do need to reinvent ourselves from time to time. I think it is when we accept that we need to be ourselves and not worry about impressing others, we find a new sense of freedom. Wishing you a beautiful weekend!
xOx

Gail said...

I understand exactly what you are saying. I hope you can throw out the "trash" and keep only the good parts.

Know that is who we truly are inside that counts and not what others perceive.

Gail said...

Wishing I could reply directly to you about your comments on my post. It is my Ki-Anne you see, a dog, not a pig, with strong herding sense but no training yet. She will learn.

I feel the same way about horses. Never had them when I was younger but now I do. I could just watch them or smell them and be quite content.

Draffin Bears said...

Hi Sixpence,

Life can be hard sometime, but when we do let go, gives us strength to carry on. I love the clouds in the sky, doesn't it always make you feel good when you see beautiful things like this.
Wishing you brighter and great days ahead.

Hugs
Carolyn

HORIZON said...

This post meant a lot to me- thank you.